🦸♂️ Life Going On
Posted Aug 28, 2022 4:27PM UTC
It's been seven months since my partner's death, and six since I moved to Florida. I just saw that I haven't written all of you since my first month here. I reconnected with old friends then and mad...
Offline Days
Posted May 02, 2022 2:44PM UTC
I've been updating our Patreon members on what's been happening with me, and thought I should post a quick note to bring everyone up to speed.
After my partner died in February, I moved to Fort Lauderdale, Florida. It was sudden, but there was nothing keeping me in Maryland, and I took advantage when a furnished apartment became available the first of March. I lived there for two months, and bought a house last Wednesday.
It's an odd place, with character bordering on — and sometimes tipping into — eccentricity. It needs a great deal of planning and work, and will be a fun project and, in the end, a welcoming get-a-way for friends visiting FL. Most importantly, the cat's happy to have his own yard again.
All of which is to say I've been offline more than usual. Settling Al's affairs, moving, setting up house, looking at and bidding on houses, moving again, tearing down a wall… Life's been further up in the...
No More Neckties
Posted Apr 04, 2022 1:41PM UTC
OlderGay.Men member Loren Olson will be traveling over the next two months to promote his new book No More Neckties, a memoir of growing up gay in the 1950s and 60s, coming out late in life, moving to the country, and starting a farm with his partner.
If you'd like to come out and support him, you can see if he's coming to your area in the travel plans on his profile and read more about his work on his website.
🦸♂️ Greetings From FL
Posted Mar 27, 2022 12:53PM UTC
It's nearly two months since my partner died, and they've been a whirlwind. I was only in Maryland for Al, and when a chance to take an apartment in Fort Lauderdale appeared, I decided to take it. T...
🦸♂️ Next Steps
Posted Feb 20, 2022 6:54PM UTC
As I’m sure you know, my partner died the first of the month. I’m moving to Fort Lauderdale next week. I’m still doing a lot of just-getting-through-the-day, but I’ll slowly make more time for worki...
Midwestern Study Participants Wanted
Posted Feb 14, 2022 11:57PM UTC
Lucas Prieto, a doctoral candidate at Michigan State University in the School of Social Work, is seeking gay men 50 years and older in the American Midwest to take part in a survey regarding sexual satisfaction, aging, and health. The study consists of a brief online confidential survey that takes 15 to 20 minutes to complete. Topics range from ageism within the gay community to sexual satisfaction, erectile function, and general health questions. If you would like to participate or know anyone who may be interested, you can learn more at:
https://lucasreyesprieto.wixsite.com/survey/
And read an interview with Lucas here:
Al
Posted Feb 03, 2022 9:01PM UTC
My partner Al died Tuesday morning. He went through two more hospitalizations since this all started in October, and the second was a particularly rough stay. Because of COVID restrictions, he had to sit alone in a room for twelve days. That's disorienting for anyone, but at 84, it really knocked him for a loop.
He came home a week ago today. We had a hospital bed and oxygen ready for him, and after sleeping most of a day, he came around and was more like himself. But he still couldn't catch his breath. I learned to grab bits of sleep when I could, since he got me up several times a night. The last night, he couldn't stay in the bed anymore and couldn't even lie back in the recliner. I took the bed next to him, and he sat up, trying to find a position that worked. Around 6:30 in the morning, his breathing took on a gargling sound, and then he stopped responding to me. I called his adopted son next...
Happy Anniversary!
Posted Jan 24, 2022 11:54PM UTC
OlderGay.Men turns 26 today. We've had a good year and welcomed many new friends. I've been less active here since the fall. My partner's on his third hospitalization since October. He went back with congestive heart failure in December and came home but never really recovered. It became enough of a struggle that he wanted to go in again. He's been in eleven days, and we hope he'll transfer to a rehab center tomorrow. As many of you have experienced, the worst of it now is that he has to be alone due to COVID restrictions. I'm down to hoping I'll have a moment with him if I camp out at the ambulance door until he's wheeled out for the transfer.
When he was home, there was a long list of chores to be done each day, and he had me up several times each night when he couldn't catch his breath. I worry that's going to be part of life now. He doesn't sound better...
90-Year-Old's Coming Out Story
Posted Jan 03, 2022 5:34PM UTC
Ken Felts, who came out at age 90 and found love again shortly after, has published his memoirs. Here's a couple of links:
https://store.bookbaby.com/bookshop/book/index.aspx?bookURL=My-Handful-of-Stars
https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/59928433-my-handful-of-stars
A great reminder for the new year that it's never too late to be yourself.
🦸♂️ Happy New Year!
Posted Jan 01, 2022 11:07PM UTC
I just posted a retrospective of the year on the site:https://oldergay.men/news/2021-on-oldergay-menAnd now I need to make some dinner for my newly-home man. But I wanted to take a moment to thank y...